Eight Essential Gay Dating Tips

Whether you are gay, bisexual or bi-curious, finding that perfect date can be a daunting task, especially if you are stepping out for the first time. How should you dress? Where should you go? What should you say or not to say? One thing is for sure, remember to be yourself and be relaxed. Below are a series of gay dating tips aimed at helping you make that date a real success.

The Best Gay Dating Tips:

 

 

1. Choosing an appropriate meeting place is extremely important. You should agree to meet at a central location that is neutral and somewhat close to home so that you will be familiar with the area. It’s best to choose a place that’s not too noisy or rowdy and more like a quiet bar where you can both chat to get to know each other better and be heard effectively.

2. Going on a first date is almost always tense and nerve wracking, especially if you have a quiet or shy personality. An important point to remember is to listen carefully and concentrate to what your date has to say, which will enable you to connect and communicate more easily and comfortably.

3. It’s always best to share the conversation so that you are not perceived as not caring about what your date has to say. Ask some questions as to stay engaged and to show interest in your date and feel free to talk about yourself as well, but also be respectful and willing to listen to what the other guy has to say.

4. Don’t dwell in the past and definitely refrain from mentioning your past relationships and negative experiences you may have had. Remember, every first date is a new beginning and should be treated like a fresh start. Portray yourself as being confident and optimistic so that you are seen as being willing to meet new guys and have fun new experiences. Always stick to the present and the future rather than dwelling on previous bad experiences. Show your date that you are interested in him now and that you have no old baggage to weight down a potential new friendship or relationship.

5. Show your inner glow and be positive in your words and actions. There’s nothing better than a  positive and optimistic personality to show off some great self-esteem. This demonstrates a great level of confidence, which is definitely attractive in most guys eyes. Forget about your past negative thoughts and think positive for an exciting new future.

6. It’s been proven time and time again that one night hook-up’s or “trick” encounters do not last the test of time or usually much more than 24 hours for that matter. If that’s what you’re looking for, that’s fine and may also be what your date is mutually looking for, but just play it SAFE and be upfront with your date to prevent an embarasing situation. Otherwise, you may want to concentrate more on your conversation to learn more about each other and leave the sex for another date. This will show that you are genuinely interested in knowing more about your date and desire to possibly take your new friendship to the next level.

7. There is really no need to rush your friendship. Take your time by giving yourself and the other guy some time to breath and discover how you mutually feel about each other. It’s almost always advisable to not become too serious too quickly at an early stage in the courting process. This can easily scare off the other guy who may not feel ready for a relationship or commitment until he feels more comfortable by building your friendship first.

8. There’s no point in beating around the bush and honesty is always your best policy. Be true to yourself and your feelings towards this guy by not needlessly leading them on if you don’t feel the sparks for pursuing a friendship and farther. If you feel you are not getting the attention you deserve and desire, then definitely let your feelings be heard. If your interest is not reciprocated, then direct your attention another guy who will appreciated it. Likewise, if you grow disinterested in the guy, let it be known so you can both move on to someone else.

9. Probably the most important gay dating tip is to treat the other guy with the same level of respect as you feel you deserve. There’s little point in wasting each others time with game playing. Be respectful by returning his phone calls and speak to him honestly about what you are feeling about your friendship. If you are not interested, have the decency of letting him know rather than taking him on a mind game of uncertainty.

Meeting new guy is rarely easy, let alone dating him. I hope these gay dating tips have given you a few valuable insights into some reasonable etiquette involved with dating another man. Good luck and I hope these gay dating tips help to make your next dates more comfortable and definitely more fun!

 

 

 

 

10 Tips For Safe Online Gay Dating

Are you still searching for a special partner or hook-up? No matter if you’re searching online or off,  be sure to keep yourself safe. The following ten tips will help you to find the love or sexy hook-up you’re looking for but also help you to keep personal protection on your mind as well.

1. Be aware of guys who seem too good to be true. Start with communicating strictly by email while looking for odd behavior or inconsistencies in his stories. The guy on the other end may not be who or what he says he is and you need to trust your instincts and gut feelings. If anything he says makes you feel uncomfortable or if you feel he may not be honest, then walk away for your own safety and protection to find another guy you feel more comfortable with.

2. Be certain that all of your contact on a dating membership website occurs through a double-blind system to ensure that your true identity is confidential until you decide to disclose it. Never post your last name, phone number, home address, email address, place of employment, or any other pertinant revealing identification information on your profile or messages. When initially chatting with another guy, it’s prudent to also turn off your email signature information. Cease communications with any guy who immediately puts pressure on you to reveal personal information or attempts in any way to trick you into giving it to him prematurely

3. Being cautious during your initial communications will result in a safer and more comfortable dating experience. Make sure to protect yourself against trusting the untrustworthy. Potential boyfriends must gradually earn your trust over time with consistently honest and straightforward behavior and communications. Take whatever time you may need to explore different guys to find a straightforward and honest one to date and pay careful attention to what they say all along the way. If you suspect he is lying, he probably is, so act accordingly and move on to the next prospect. Be responsible and don’t become prematurely flirty with him, even if that intimacy only occurs online. If you mutually decide to cross the point of no return for a hook-up, be prudent and protect yourself from STD’s. The U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention provides the most current information available about sexually transmitted diseases and preserving your health, especially for someone you only recently met online and really don’t know their sexual background.

4. Almost all online dating websites do not require members to submit to background checks, so be sure you get as much info as possible by asking appropriate questions. Use internet search engines to search for intelligence by entering his “name” and online “handle” in quotes, and most importantly, use common sense. No method will be 100% reliable, but remember to use the head on your shoulders, not the one in your pants.

5. An online profile photo may give you a good idea of the guys appearance, which may prove helpful in monitoring your gut feeling. However, it’s a better idea to view several photos of him in various settings: casual, formal, indoor and outdoors to give you confidence that his photos are not “borrowed” from someone else online. If all you hear are excuses about why you can’t see a photo(s), consider that he may have something to hide or that he is using a stolen photo to lure you into a hook-up.

Certainly, there are many guys cruising online who are in the closet or need to remain anonymous to prevent disclosure to employers, however, once your chatting has progressed to scheduling a date, he should be willing to reveal his real photo before you confirm to meet in person.

6. A phone call can help reveal much about a guys social and communications skills. Be prudent and consider your personal security and do not give out your home phone number to a stranger. It’s best to try a cell phone number instead or use call blocking features to prevent your phone number from appearing on a Caller ID. Only give out your phone number if and when you feel completely comfortable and trust the guy you’re ready to meet.

7. The benefit of meeting guys online is that you can gather personal information gradually, while choosing whether to pursue the relationship later in the offline world. Don’t feel obligated to meet any guy, regardless of your level of online flirting or intimacy. Even if you eventually decide to arrange a date, it’s always your perogative to change your mind if you become uncomfortable. Perhaps you may decide to keep the relationship anonymous, based on a hunch that you can’t logically explain. Trust your gut feeling and go with your instincts.

8. Pay special attention for displays of anger, intense unexplained frustration or attempts to convince or control you to meeting if you are not yet ready. Guys acting in a passive-aggressive manner, making demeaning comments or any physically inappropriate behavior are all red flags signaling you to likely end all communications. You should be very concerned if your date shows any of the following behaviors without providing an acceptable explanation: Gives you inconsistent info about age, appearance, marital status, social interests, employment or profession, etc. He refuses to talk with you on the phone after establishing ongoing, online intimacy. He fails to give you direct answers to direct questions. He appears significantly different in person from his online profile. Refuses to introduce you to his friends.

9. Whenever you decide to meet offline for a face-to-face date, always tell at least one friend where you are going and when you expect to return. Always provide your date’s name and telephone number with a friend and also leave a note on your counter at home. Never agree for your date to pick you up at home for the first date. Use your own transportation, and meet for your first date in a public place at a time with many people around. A popular coffee shop or restaurant is usually the best choice until you establish compatability with your new friend or hook-up. Unless you establish a great rapport and a comfort level that you can trust, when the date is over, leave on your own as well. Always refrain from drinking excessively as you could weaken your ability to make rational decisions. If at some point you and your date decide to move to another location, it’s safest to take your own car to have control of an escape should you need one.

10. If your plans include a flight to meet in another city, reserve your own car and hotel room. It’s prudent to not make the name of your hotel known and never permit your date to make arrangements for you. Drive yourself from the airport directly to your hotel in your own rental car or cab and call your date from the hotel. Always check out the location ahead of time where you both agreed to meet to determine exactly where it is and to get more familiar with the area . If the chosen location seems inappropriate or unsafe, go back to your hotel and make contact with your date or leave a voice mail. Again, always make sure a friend or family member knows your travel plans and has your contact information and that of your date just in case something goes wrong. Always carry a cell phone with you and never do anything you feel unsure about. If you are ever in any way concerned about your safety with your date, use your best judgment to diffuse the situation and get out of there as quickly as possible. You may want to excuse yourself long enough to call a friend for advice or to ask someone else on the scene for help to slip out the back door to escape. If you feel you are in physical danger, then it’s always better to be safe than sorry by calling the police.

Never feel embarrassed or ashamed about your behavior as your safety is much more important than one guys opinion of you, especially one in a distant city.

Cheaters, frauds and liars can certainly be very convincing online, but you’ll also find them in bars, parties or even sitting across from you at your local hangout or coffee house. No matter where you meet guys, dating is never risk-free, but a little caution and awareness will reduce your risk and increase your safety when trying to find that certain guy you want to date or hook-up with.